Those men are different than us. We...well I cant speak for him, but I do need a woman, I do need love, I do need sex, I do want children....these things are obsolete for my happiness in life. Moderator Note This thread has been split from another thread which Draqon managed to singlehandedly steal from the Original Poster. Hopefully this will grant both Draq and the original OP the outlet they were seeking.
You are obsessing to an unhealthy level. I think maybe you might seek help for your problematic expectations and co-dependence issues. I think it would help you in the long run. It's not a criticism, but I am trying to help you understand that you are a good person, who is relatively intelligent from what I can discern and has a lot to offer others. I think you need some self-esteem, confidence and maturity. You'll be fine, draqon, and you don't need a woman to make you complete. You are a complete person now, you only have to realize it and run with the ball.
That's BS. I'm sorry. 'Women' in general have not decided you are unlovable...you, yourself, have made that decision and assumption and by believing in it and maybe acting on it, have made it a self-fufilling prophecy. You say you will never give in and never give up so in a sense you are contradicting yourself. If you truly thought that you were completely unlovable, you would give up, so obviously you have hope for yourself and don't truly believe you are a complete 'loser' or 'failure'. Though not having a woman makes you neither of those things. Sometimes when we try too hard to achieve the one thing we want, we end up missing all the signs, cues, and obvious hints around us. Cosmic is right; stop focusing so much on what you don't have and focus more on what you do have. Love will come when you stop looking and least expect it.
/facepalm You have unrealistic expectations of what a woman is going to do for your life. How about you share them with us? How is a woman going to make your life perfect?
So you want to be some girls puppy. Smashing. (Puppies are cheaper by the way, you might want to try another approach)
You are creepy. Like stalker/serial killer creepy. Seriously, you should really go see a mental health professional about this. It's really really unhealthy.
What is unattractive is your self-pity. Go get some help and stop wasting life being mired in self-destructive thinking. I was once that way. I thought no one would ever love me or understand me or treat me right. I thought I was doomed to forever subsist in abusive relationships and depression. Then, one day, I realized the man that I loved and who loved me had been right in front of my face the ENTIRE time, holding my hand through all my troubles, picking me up when I was down, and taking care of me when someone hurt me. You know why I didn't see it? Because I was too busy being self-centered and wallowing in my self-pity. See what I mean? Go get professional help. I did. Learn how to break the rut and love yourself first. No one will love you if you do not love yourself. It is too much weight to bear and too much responsibility.
I didn't say you were crazy, I just said that you have a very unhealthy and unrealistic expectation of how relationships work. I would never call anyone crazy, and I am saying it out of compassion, not out of trying to "shit" on you. From a woman's standpoint, what you are saying is really obsessive and clingy, not to mention very unhealthy. I personally would never date anyone who had those kinds of expectations of how our relationship should be. Women don't like to be worshiped.
I HAVE gotten professional help (try reading posts before jumping to idiotic conclusions) and I'm not accusing you or "shitting" on you...these are personal opinions I have formed after many long decipherings of many of your posts which all run the same way. Excuse me for not being able to keep my mouth shut once in a while especially since you can't seem to stop talking either. I am not saying I am better then you. I am saying I WAS you. I am saying that there is hope, but only if you allow yourself to take advantage of it and I won't pity you because you do enough of that for yourself already. Stop being offended and heed advice rather then being all hurt and going in emotional circles.
being a virgin at that age is pathetic for a healthy adult. Its different if its a moral decision or a medical issue. I don't think you or the OP are for either of those reasons.
Get a friend! Lord Love a duck, you are in college and you never go out and party, go to movies, or go out and eat with anyone but Mommy!
