Hey there. My boyfriend, when he was four, was sexually assaulted. He was of course terrified at the time, and it traumatized him for life. He's a wonderful person with a great heart, but there's one thing about him that is VERY hard to accept - and that's that whenever he feels the slightest bit bad, he starts to act just like a child. He whines, puts on a "poor me" act, and just acts very immature. It's very strange; you can tell he's not doing it just because he's selfish or plain immature. It's a deeply-rooted in behavior and now is a pretty big part of his personality. He knows it's because of what happened when he was younger. He says it's like his defense, an escape. I heard about this in one of my very first psychology classes in high school...but it's too vague to recall any useful information. Anyone have any other information on it, and/or what can help him to improve this behavior?

god you scared me
i was ready to kill!

now for some filler...

Hey there.

hey my little yese

It's a deeply-rooted in behavior and now is a pretty big part of his personality.

ascribing causes at this point might be a waste of time. few questions for now.. you indicate that he indulges in this behaviour around everyone? not just you? how well do you know him? what are the parents like? why isnt he in therapy? do you take stray animals home?

*where the hell is ripleofdeath?







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Haha. Well yes I've known him very well...he acts like this around all of my friends and all his family...and anyone who stays around him long enough to get the chance to observe it. His parents live in a different state, although I know he has quite a good relationship with his mom. Why isn't he in therapy...hmm, probably too many bills to pay as is, and also isn't yet comfortable talking about what happened to people he doesn't know (not to mention, it's also very hard for him to trust in people).

go read the meth thread again
if i continue here, i might get cross

Haha, what can I say...people have problems. :P Ok, I'll read the meth thread again. Haven't checked it in a long, long time anyway.

Spank him!:)

Yeah. He'd probably cooperate very enthusiastically. I would.