Do you think sex had anything to do with love? Please state your opinions! I am currently duking it out with someone over this, and I would like to know what you folks think.
Depends really. If you're bar hopping and horny then a one night stand isn't love. If you truly love a person and are horny then it is love to some extent. I think even if you are fucking your lover at that point it's more of your body chemistery taking over rather than your emotions. I mean at that point of impact you could be more focused on achieveing rather than noticing how beautiful your partner looks sweaty and under you....(or over you if you like the control and no work). So sex could be another expression of love for some and for some it's just good old plain fun time with a hot person. Depends on your definition of love, depends on the person and depends on the situation.
I can only speak from the male perspective and not necessarily for all males, sex is sex, love is love, two completely different actions, sex is the act of mating or in human terms a release and you don't have to love someone for that, love connects you and your mate beyond the role of gender and sexuality.
Of course not. I suppose you could see sex as an expression of love, but I've never seen it that way. Calling sex an "expression of love" just sounds like some horny frat boy trying to get into his girlfriend's pants, you know? Basically.
In A Midsummer Night's Sex Comedy Woody Allen's character made the point that sex and love were completely unrelated due to the fact that sex reduces stress while love only causes it.
True true true. Guys use that to coerce their girlfriends into putting out for them. But many actually use that seriously amazingly enoughPlease Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
nope. love and sex dont even belong in the same room together. well.. unless you're trying to master the art of really boring sex... but hey, if whispering sweet nothing and playing soft music is your thing.. go ahead.. but thats not sex... thats.. "love-making".. am i the only one that find that term awfully nausiating? and the tern "lover".. reminds me of a fabio picture on the cover of a romance novel...
Yes, I completely hate that term! My friend is married and she and her husband say, "We've never had sex together, we only make love" and I thinking yeah right whatever, I'm happy getting fucked...
Like i said depends from person to person. BTW Nightfall....LMAO........Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
You can have sex without love... that's a fact! But when dealing with love it's more complicated : can you have love without sex? That's hard to answer. I could say no but I would miss the oldest couples (or the family love but of course there's no sex!). I think that the best sentence is :
To answer this question, you must distinguish between the sexes and understand what sex is. Sex to a male is an ejaculation, while to a female, it's a violation. Women don't enter male bodies, but males do enter the female body. It's because of that, a woman should be in love to allow the violation and make it a worthy while experience, while a male could care less who or what he ejaculates on. This means a woman have to be in love to have sex, but should have a brain to select the object of her love carefully.
People who take love so seriously make me laugh. I have felt it but I still maintained the knowledge that, in reality, I was only feeling it because it is a trait humans have developed to ensure the success of their offspring. I wouldn't say love=sex because I'm not retarded. But I would say that love is an instinctual tactic we have developed to make sure we aren't having sex in vain, or more accurately(because we all know we often do have sex in vain) to ensure that at least some life-worthy people will come out of this species. Everyone is considered "life worthy" today but nature doesn't know that. "Accident" babies are technically meant to be food for lions.
For some strange reason I am one of few guys who actually needs to "love" a girl to have sex with them. Maybe not love, perhaps even "like". Sorry I have standards, I am not going to just ejaculate on someone, anyone I can find. There has to be the slightest interest, feelings for, attraction to, and hottness factor involved. However, love and sex are not the same. If me and my gf are doing it, it is called sex not love making (lmao). I just want to get some satisfaction and in the process give some satisfaction at that very moment.
It definitly can be an expression of love, but it could also just be a guy getting together with some random girl. You never know.
they naturally go together; you love someone so you want to have sex...having sex can stir up emotions and possibly lead to love or "like". i've tried to separate them but it doesn't work for me. it doesn't work for the guys i've been with either. i coerced a guy into sex by convincing him we "love" each other as friends so it's ok if we have sex. he bought it but the sex wasn't nearly as good as with someone you're in love with. it was all physical, very empty. i did it to another guy and that also fell through because it was so gross (not the sex, the whole idea of it in my mind) that i blew him off and ruined our friendship. i also tried it the other way...had a long distance relationship with very occasional sex. i grew bored with him, my mind started wandering, and we drifted apart. i learned the hard way i need the two to be together for the sex to have any meaning and for the love to be reinforced by intimacy.
A good analysis, but i doubt that it is a universal answer. I understand your point of why women need to be in love, it makes alot of sense, but unless a woman has had a bad experience or several, why would she feel violated, especially by someone she loves? Why has this thread been moved to the religous section? Just curious. Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! Love Jan Ardena.
