Ok folks, this is gonna be sort of a long thread, so stay with me here.

The basic question: How do you handle over protective friends of girls? Especially when they mistakingly give the girls you like BAD ADVICE based on IGNORANT and INCORRECT assumptions. Seems to be a psychological pattern......

So, here is the specific story of what happened to me and why I want to know:

Last night, this girl I really like, was over at this ladie's house, this lady who is 31 years old and considers the girl I really like "her daughter" kinda.

So, anyway, they invited me over and everything started out cool enough, even though this lady was pretty drunk. Anyway, After the movie, me and this girl I like were sort of snuggling on the couch, and this lady begins to get extremely accusatory and aggresive w/ me. A couple of specific examples are thus:

She asks me "WHY do you feel love for her? If you REALLY felt love for her, you should be able to give me ten things, right away, off the top of your head. WHAT? Her eyes? You can't say physical things, NO. WHAT? Do you realize how that sounds? Because you're always thinking about her? Do you realize how that sounds?? Guys have trouble talking about their emotions? That is BULLSHIT. My husband could tell me RIGHT NOW 50 things if I asked him! NO! You are not looking at me in the eye! You are not being honest, because you are not looking at me in my eyes!"

And when I told her that I was majoring in mathematics, she's all "You told me something else earlier! I just caught you in a lie! There is no mathematics degree! NO NO NO, I am going to hit you, there is no mathematics degree! See, I just caught you in a lie! NO! I don't care if you'll swear on a bible, I caught you in a lie!"
Which was completely wrong, both me and the girl I like (who was present of course during all this) totally agree, we don't even know what she was talking about.

Anyway, I obviously told her that I really was feeling attacked and hurt by her critisicm and her inability to trust me, because I am an honest person. She simply claimed that she was not attacking me, but she really was. Her eyes reminded me of some kind of a snarling primates eyes.

Well, in the end, she finally goes "I think that you need to leave now." And of course I'm like "ok.." and that was it, but she was really pissed for some reason.

Anyway, how can I handle someone like that? I mean, I know that she is full of good intentions, and is simply trying to "protect the girl who she considers her daughter" and I'm just assuming that maybe this lady hooked up w/ some scuzzbag guys in her past and thus wants to protect her "imaginary daughter".

Do you all have any suggestions tho', on what I could say to kind of gain this ladie's trust?
(That is, if I ever see her again, I really really tried to handle the way she was talking to me as smooth as possible and feel like I acted like a gentleman...)

A little bit of info: The girl I like is a lot younger than me. The lady was intoxicated, and she was 31 years old. (And she got really annoyed when I guessed her age at 32. -sigh- lol)

Any advice you got would be really helpful, cause this really bothered me, thanks folks!

wait till shes not drunk then ask what the hell she was on about

lol how am I gonna ask her, it's not like she's invited me back to her house...

forget about her and move on.
Simple, eh?

This sounds like a halloween party with an ingracious hostess, well into her cups.
What does your girlfriend say?
Is she of legal age?
As you suggest, you don't have to ever see her again.
If she is a person you must deal with because it is important to your intended, invite the 'monster' and hubby to a lunch at a resturant. Meet them there. You and your lady arrive from a fun event(feeding the park ducks) and schedule a movie or play right after this lunch. Hopefully you have some skill at communication. Do not bring up the event in question. Just a light hearted, ice breaking affair in the middle of a romantic day. If she even remembers the previous conversation she should be loathe to bring it up.

If your intended is intent to fawn over the monsters jealousies, why are you interested?

She ain't really my girlfriend. I don't really have this lady's contact info. Here is what I did do, however.

I wrote this lady a letter and gave it to the girl I like with instructions to give it to her. We'll just have to wait and see what happens.

And when you feel the way I feel about this girl, you can't "just forget about her" no matter how much you want to, if she goes outta your life, emotional pain and emptiness just takes her place. Anyone whose felt the same way about someone knows this.

Frisbisnator:
I wrote this lady a letter and gave it to the girl I like with instructions to give it to her. We'll just have to wait and see what happens.

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Again:
I wrote this lady a letter and gave it to the girl I like with instructions to give it to her. We'll just have to wait and see what happens.

She'll read it and hate the girl even more than she does now.
Her antagonism towards you is simply a channeling of her envy for that girl- she's likely never had a boy as attentive to her as you are to this girl.
And this younger girl is even more vexing because of youth- a youth more envious to this woman by you guessing her age correctly.

She was mighty pissed, yes?
"How old do you think I am? Guess how old I am", the 31 year old woman will coyly ask and sit back waiting for some pandering.
"32", you say and break her because you were honest.


What's more, she's likely been neglected by her husband but all in all- its the girl she hates, not you.

send a basket of muffins and say something to the effect of "sorry we got off on the wrong foot" or "sorry about the misunderstandings". but then again I have never been in that kind of situation.(for some people older people like me)