One-Third of Married People Think of Sex as a Chore

Wow! For many being married is bad for your sex life. Who would have thought? That means when your married friends are bragging about how good their love lives are, there's a good chance they are lying to you. Anyway, how accurate do you think this report is?

I think it's very close to being accurate give or take a few percentage points.

 

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It's probably true, yes.

 

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You've been married then?

What I can't figure out is how did they determine the following time frame.

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ya ok. There are many family's that have more than one kid. You don't find many now that marry as virgins. They like what they get in many ways. If your not married it can be a chore just locating an convincing. A individual, that you find that fits your type. To have a good night with you or weekend. Most hook ups I think happen from either "bars", or from friends. And being with multiple partners, is not good in my point of view. I am happy personally just being around my wife.

 

No.

It's like eating same pizza everyday. You get tired, yes?

 

With out a doubt and day to day living takes it's toll. No one wants to worry about their mate hooking up with someone else, but a little worry might help keep the interest and excitement up.

 

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living in general does take a toll.
But you folks must be seeing the wrong type of mate to think they would cheat. My wife an I trust each other with anything. An we know the other won't cheat. And IMO men will most likely be the cheaters. We know mostly where the other is an even what we buy. We know most of the others habits.

 

It depends upon many factors and age is one of the most important ones. As we get older we tend to see sex as something different than we did when we were younger, say under 30, so that it a very important thing to remember when discussing this topic. Usually under 30 you are enjoying the sex and having children sometimes as the result. As we age we tend to not want the children as much and tend to lose the appeal of sex a lttle more every year. There are many that still enjoy sex, the single people , who don't have children to take care of. I was married for a long time and tried to make sex enjoyable by going different places from time to time to change the scenery so to say.

 

Recent studies show that almost 50% of married people will cheat at least once while still married and while men do have a lead on numbers, women are not very far behind. Those that cheat just once usually don't tell and they don't get caught. Just because couples are having problems with their sex life does not mean they don't want sex, and even someone that doesn't go looking for someone to cheat with might not turn down an opportunity under the right circumstances.

Most of the people that catch their mate cheating would not have believed it was possible, but seeing is believing.

 

I know with out a shadow of ANY doubt she won't. And she knows I won't. But it seems you may have had a issue with that before. I have one former "woman" do it for sure to me. She told me and she told me enough details to make me go to a dark place an eventually leave her soon after she told me. She informed me the next day. An another woman I think cheated. An that may have been why she left me. She told me she felt guilty she couldn't continue our relationship. Over the phone... Good thing or I may have done something I would've regretted. So I would not do that to my wife. I made a full commitment to her. Just like she made one to me (we married).

 

I wonder what stage of the relationship they were in, specifically if they were in the "We want kids now but have been trying for a year and still haven't conceived" group because this is one of the things which gets brought up in couples with fertility issues, that sex IS a chore, doesn't matter if you enjoy sex or want sex, you end up having to HAVE sex no matter your mood to try again and then you get to the end of the month and the result is the same.

 

What's like eating pizza? Uh . . . never mind.

Woah. The sex therapist is named

 

Okay, so one third of married people don't find sex their #1 priority for a myriad of reasons, even describing it as a chore. :shrug:

Seems like trying to get sex is a chore for 100% of those itching to get laid, with the exception of the odd 'chick magnet.'

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(Sorry guys. It's pretty much accepted that a woman, any woman, can probably find a taker if she's 'in the mood.')

 

This has been proven in many a beer joint at closing time.

Not that I would know or anything, just sayin.

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Well, DUH!

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Wife 1.0 cheated and got her ass kicked out of my house and my life. 'Course she also tried to kill me, lied like a carpet and failed to keep her word in other areas as well.

Wife 2.0 has been a fine companion for more than 22 years. As we have aged, sex has become less frequent due to many variables. Being tired and sore is in there, as is our ages - I am 61 and she is 53. She is experiencing the 'pause' which interferes with her functionality on a practical physiological basis, I have developed prostate issues as well as declining testosterone which have slowed me down a bit.

However....I am in superb shape and healthy as a horse (sorry for the equine metaphor there, Scheher) and find my wife very attractive and sexy. She is also very healthy, very good looking and built quite nicely. We both enjoy our intimate life a lot. I make a point to sexually harass her on an ongoing basis, we have a lot of fun together.

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(Our son finds us disgusting, however

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You're right on the 'women can get it whenever they want it' thingie (mostly)....however I am real clear that I could 'get it' from other ladies at the drop of a hat as well...girls in my age range are a lot more forward about liking what they see and making that clear. In the last 2 weeks I have personally had 2 women make serious advances at me (put their hands on the merchandise) that I'm absolutely positive could get me into deep doo - doo if I responded with anything other than a warm and polite negative. My pat line is that it is hard enough for me to handle 1 woman, there is no way I could handle 2 at once.

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The wife knows that she has already got as good as it gets and has enough problems without adding that to the load she already has. There is much to be said for a spouse that can cook very well, does the grocery shopping, cleans house and goes above and beyond the call of duty in many areas. Also for sticking to an agreement/contract.

 

You're being a little complacent to assume that men are the most likely to cheat, R1D2. Women have been determined to be less likely to be caught doing it; and therefore less likely to admit it, as well. You'll find that the ratios, given that point, are more or less the same. When I say "the same", I'm actually mentioning that the documented instance of extreme-marital activity is actually very, very high.

The worst mistake you can make when attempting to determine a societal norm is to assume your own relationship... or rather, your own perception of it... is indicative of society as a whole.

 

Thanks Mr M for you "advise". As I said earlier I had one before cheat for sure an one I believe did.

But as for the woman I have now, I know she is 100% committed, and faithful. An I am likewise. I tend to think I'm loyal to the likely point I may put a good dog to shame.

Hey Stonifi I think your wife puts up with a lot of good affection. Not sexual harassment. Mine is similar in that regard. My wife's older than me though.

 

I get the impression you're both fairly "old". That's not an insult. It's an indicator.

It's just something you should take into account when detailing your own experiences of extra-marital activity.
Everyone settles, eventually. After the age of forty or so (give or take) the whole issue of sexuality becomes less relevant.

Right?

*edit - at this point, R1D2, I haven't actually given any "advice".

 

Actually, in light of what I just said, did anyone think to wonder what segment of the population this "third" was actually taken from? Age, economic situation, religious background, decade they worn born in, yadda etc?

Personally, I'd need far more information.