Marriage And Chatting

Discussion in 'Free Thoughts' started by tresbien, Feb 9, 2008.

  1. tresbien Banned Banned

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    What are the advantages and disadvantages of marrying via the internet
     
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  3. draqon Banned Banned

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    .sex.
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    .no sex.
    .no children.
     
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  5. shorty_37 Go! Canada Go! Registered Senior Member

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    marrying over the internet??? explain
     
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  7. tresbien Banned Banned

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    can one rely on the net to find his or her match.I heard that those who use this way either has psychological problems or they are no attractive.]
     
  8. draqon Banned Banned

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    if there are no other options than rely on anything that will solve the problem. I have moral reasons why I am looking for a bride over internet.
     
  9. shorty_37 Go! Canada Go! Registered Senior Member

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    There are ppl who successfully find a match online. I wouldn't suggest to keep it going strictly online for a long period of time. I think if you do take that route you should meet the person at least after a few months, see if there is chemistry face to face. You don't want to waste too much time, to find out that in person it just isn't the same.
     
  10. Myles Registered Senior Member

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    With this post I thee wed
    Now it's time to go to bed.
     
  11. Orleander OH JOY!!!! Valued Senior Member

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    I don't see how it would be much different than an arranged marriage. :shrug:
     
  12. lucifers angel same shit, differant day!! Registered Senior Member

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    its NOT a good idea, meeting people you talk to accross the net can always lie, a man can say "oh i am 6ft tall, a bronze god, with biceps to match" but really he is a 4ft romainan dwarf that is here with the circus.

    meet people face to face, get to know them for who they really are.

    also people on the internet can tell you what you need to hear to prey you away from family, and go miles and miles to meet them and be hideous murderus
     
  13. sowhatifit'sdark Valued Senior Member

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    But I mean, usually you can chat and then meet and so on. Or....?
     
  14. S.A.M. uniquely dreadful Valued Senior Member

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    Online romance = bad idea.
     
  15. Fraggle Rocker Staff Member

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    What's that? You belong to the Church of the Holy Mouse and you're not allowed to talk to people in person?

    Marriage is hard enough these days because life is complicated. Both parties expect more from life, more from the marriage, and more from each other than they did hundreds of years ago. You need every advantage you can get going in. One of those advantages is to know the entire person. You don't get that over the internet, you just know the tiny fragment of them that they are willing to divulge and that they are capable of expressing in written language.

    We all have traits that we're not even aware of, things we wouldn't even know need to be told.

    You need to hear a person's voice, see their facial expression and body language. I suppose you can get a little of this with a webcam but the technology is still pretty primitive. You also need to see how they react to you!

    Yes, arranged marriages often succeed, but it's because the parents know their children pretty well and can make a good judgment about compatibility. They also take place in cultures where children have grown up expecting it, so they feel like they're fulfilling their destiny. And it helps that they occur when they're very young and horny and haven't had much time to be attracted to other people.
     
  16. sowhatifit'sdark Valued Senior Member

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    Why?
    Can't you meet up after a while and see what it's like in person, if the romantic feelings stay there?
     
  17. tablariddim forexU2 Valued Senior Member

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    I knew someone who met her husband over the internet but after losing touch, I wouldn't know how successful the marriage was.

    I suppose you could hit it off with someone over the net using the typed word, but judging from me, I can tell you that I sound quite a bit different in real life, for example I'm not as eloquent, when I talk I tend to use more colloquial language and I can't remember all the right words, also, I don't normally talk a great deal, not unless I've had a few glasses of wine, in which case I usually talk too much. In any case, no matter how you 'meet' someone, marriage shouldn't even be considered until you've spent considerable time with the real live person so that you both really know what you're letting yourselves in for.
     
  18. S.A.M. uniquely dreadful Valued Senior Member

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    Online personas are unreal.

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    People say things they never would in real life and the impressions created about them can be misleading.

    For me, 90% of interaction is based on vibes. How people react, project themselves, the feedback I get from them, whether I feel comfortable in their presence or want to get away etc. None of this can come across on the internet.

    And with romance, you miss the most imp stuff online.

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  19. outlandish smoki'n....... Registered Senior Member

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    no, good idea
     
  20. lucifers angel same shit, differant day!! Registered Senior Member

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    do you speak from expierience?
     
  21. outlandish smoki'n....... Registered Senior Member

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    yep
     
  22. Orleander OH JOY!!!! Valued Senior Member

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    There is a difference between meeting online and having an online romance.
    I had a co-worker who met her husband on line, but they met in person and dated for over a year before marrying.
     
  23. shorty_37 Go! Canada Go! Registered Senior Member

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    If you meet someone online that you hit it off with you never know. If you actually meet and still feel the same way, I don't see what the problem is. Like I said just don't drag it on for too long. You don't want to find out you wasted your time when you meet in person to find the chemistry isn't there.
     

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