It's still so hard...

Discussion in 'Free Thoughts' started by Thoreau, Feb 10, 2010.

  1. Thoreau Valued Senior Member

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    It's been 6 months since I lost my mom. It just seems to get harder and harder to deal with. I've lost people before, but this is becoming unbearable. I just want to feel better again.
     
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  3. skaught The field its covered in blood Valued Senior Member

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    Give it time man. Don't be afraid to allow yourself to hurt as long as you need to.
     
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  5. PieAreSquared Woo is resistant to reason Registered Senior Member

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    yes MZ, time heals.... hasn't been much longer for me

    I still miss mine... but find assurance in that she no longer has to suffer
     
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  7. cluelusshusbund + Public Dilemma + Valued Senior Member

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    Did you have unresolved issues wit her.???
     
  8. Thoreau Valued Senior Member

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    No, not at all. I just wish I could have had the opportunity to say and do so much more. I wish I could have spent more time down in TX with here. But my life up here in the Midwest demands so much of my time.
     
  9. cluelusshusbund + Public Dilemma + Valued Senior Member

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    Do you thank she woud want you to continue to feel bad because she dyed.???

    Do you thank you deserve to feel bad cause you wasnt wit her mor than you was.???
     
  10. sifreak21 Valued Senior Member

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    it takes time i know the feeling all to well, try to just remember the good times and know that as long as you hold that person in your heart they will always be with you, after my step father past i had a new outlook on life because i felt the same as you do. now i live my life like well.. the song from nickleback.. if today was your last day. watch the vid very moving
     
  11. S.A.M. uniquely dreadful Valued Senior Member

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    It will be hard. Ye gads its only been six months

    She was your mother after all. A lifetime of love is hard to live without.

    It will be four years for me this September, and its still painful.
     
  12. alexb123 The Amish web page is fast! Valued Senior Member

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    MZ maybe seek medical help. Counselling or even a course of anti-deps might make it more bearable.

    Most people will be in a position of recovery after 6 months, so it does seems like you might need some help on this.
     
  13. krazedkat IQ of "Highly Gifted"-"Genius" Registered Senior Member

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    I just recently lost my great grandmother (she was ready to leave at 105 :|) but it is saddening. Just wait, things will get better. Plus, it IS your parent.
     
  14. jessiej920 Shake them dice and roll 'em Valued Senior Member

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    I'm sorry MZ! Hang in there. You don't get over the loss of unconditional love, but the pain lessens as life goes on.
     
  15. cluelusshusbund + Public Dilemma + Valued Senior Member

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    How com som people have so much emotonal prollems wit the loss of a parent an som dont.???
     
  16. truther Registered Member

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    Find new stimuli for your life. Time doesn't heal unless it's accompanied by nice people. Good luck man!
     
  17. Exemplification Registered Member

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    It has been said many times I am sure, but time helps.

    Contrary to popular belief, it is not a healer... It is a duller. You will never forget your mother's passing, but the tragic emotion you are feeling fades to an ache as time goes on.

    My suggestion to you is look up. Take the positives in your life and, as my name suggests, exemplify them.

    Take a notebook, and at the end of each day, write down five good things that happened to you. Do not even bring the negatives into your thoughts. Only the positive.

    It has been researched that doing this on a daily basis can improve a persons demeanor and emotional state over a length of time. Now, I cannot recall exactly where I read this information and cannot cite it, but I have used it for the past couple of months and I have seen improvement in myself.

    Best of luck, and feel free to contact me through the PM service. I have dealt with things you are going through right now, and through personal experience, talking with somebody can only escalate the healing process.
     

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