The following article hits the spot. I've been love sick before, but before you feel sick you definately feel high, and when it wares off, it can sometime be like waking up in a bad dream that's not going to go away easy.
I got this in my first two relationships. After that I realized being with someone is not special...he's not The One, he's just another human being.
Do you remember how long your love sickness lasted, and was it about equal each time or was one worse than the other? Next, when you hear someone say the honeymoon only lasted 6 months. Is that the same as saying not love sick anymore?
I was and still am in love with my ex. Even though she betrayed me I still have a warm spot left in my heart where she will always be. When we were married I truly was in love with her but alas she must not have been with me after a few years together. I just didn't see that because I was blinded by my love for her. To be loved you need to give love.Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
You also need to recognize when you aren't getting your fair share of love back. Very tough to do when you are in a love sick state until it's to late.
Second one was most intense. I was constantly pumping out adrenalin, talking shit in an animated voice all the time, and sleeping like 4 hours. It thankfully doesn't happen now...
Thats not love . Shit dear . Love is when you can pick your nose and you know you will still want to be kissed . To be-able to spread the checks of you ass and wipe and know if he caught you you could both laugh about tripping on your pant leg . It is knowing They are Adult A.D.D. and doing there best to work with it . Rituals I have not even covered cause there the ones that brake up marriages the most I believe . If you can live with there rituals , There is hope in a marriage. If you can't forget it . It ain't going to work out until one of you stabs the other one with a kitchen knife
I don't think we're discussing love here. It's infatuation at best. You know, like the prospect of something great that could be yours if you don't screw it up. It doesn't even have to be a person...perhaps a new home or that Harley Davidson you've been dreaming of since you were a child that is now sitting in your garage...Love is when you happily work nights and weekends to keep the SOB running after twenty or thirty years (instead of trading it for a newer, sexier machine).
Hey some one with a brain ! Yeah I second that . Should we vote now ? I have been love sick though. Many times . Sometimes I think I spend most of my life being love sick . I probably am right now while talking to you all . I don't know . I been sleeping better . Not work sleeping as much . A couple of nights recently I can't even remember I was. You know that dead sleep where you wake up and are so disoriented you got that feel " How did I get Here . This is not my house ? Oh yeah I Remember my name is Mike
If being in a fulfilling relationship can have that much of an impact on your physical health, imagine what the impact must be to have all that hope and excitement over that special one-in-the-universe somebody, only for them to leave you love-screwed instead.
Was your ex the first woman you were truly in love with, Cosmic? First loves seem to have the capacity to go the distance for some, and for those cases where it does not work out, that first experience can remain a trauma for many. As the article also mentions, some people seem to get addicted to the hormonal high that comes with initial attraction and and are unable to settle into a stable relationship after it wears off, and so become constant seekers, unable to commit to a long term relationship. People continue to grow and change within a relationship and it is a sad observation that sometimes people outgrow their need to be together, though as you note, love still remains in your heart, in spite of the absence and the time that has passed. Love......the topic of much that has been written.....in all languages and mediums.
It's much worse if they keep inflaming your condition so they can keep you as a long term mark.Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
Oh, getting burned by your first love...I've met people like that, and they are the men and women who've been single for ten to twenty years. The old hot-and-cold treatment...scorch Anybody that had happened to prolly wouldn't want to get back into another realtionship without a helmet and Kevlar underwear.
Honestly? I read about it...that's how batterers operate. They go nice, build to abuse and then right after the abuse to lovey-dovey. The end stage of this is constant battery of someone pounded into total submission. So I guess manipulator-abusers follow the same pattern? It would just make sense. And I think I've seen it, but never noticed the way the patterns echoed each other... After the manipulator does something evil-steals your money, breaks fidelity, runs over your boundaries?-then they turn lovey-dovey and all contrite. And if you stay long enough, they get you so twisted around they can wipe their feet on you full time... No. I HAVE seen this, when I was a kid. Haven't paused to think about it... Holy crap. My dad is evil from growing up with my evil grandpa. He was beaten, neglected, maybe worse... And my uncle was the human floormat...may have gotten brain damage from being hit, because he's just not right... His verbally abusive and manipulative wife took his pay...and had a live-in boyfriend. "Cousin Bill." And trust me, it's not like my uncle was really ok with it, or it was a fetish thing... His wife wanted a boyfriend and so she had one, and treated my uncle like shit. I haven't thought about that in years. Just what the hell did I grow up in???:bugeye: Both sides of the family had child molesters on them and this...that's just bizarre...
We brake the pattern Chimpkin . It changes with us . So many people live trapped in the same abusive patterns of past genetic identity . I don't know why it is us that brake free . I don't even know if it is common or not , but I can tell you this < Dysfunctional Christians are know to have dysfunctional Christian kids . Better put might be : Drunks are more likely to raise drunks . It is because you like to think for your self is my guess. That separates you from the crowd . People talk the talk of free will , but you must consider most people are followers . That is the easy way cause you mitigate responsibility and I would say that the majority follow instead of lead . I think you have hidden leadership qualities you have not exploited in your own life . It is not something to be afraid of . Good leaders listen . You are very good at that .
Last time a girl tried that with me, I turned the tables in a pretty vicious way. If you're going to screw someone over and you're already heavily dependent on them, better make sure you've got a backup plan for becoming self-sufficient Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
I like a good story like that. But how long did you put up with her shit before you dumped her out of your life? Also, please discribe how good it felt at the very moment you felt free again?
