View Full Version : Friendship and maintaining it


Mr. Hamtastic
11-01-08, 09:01 PM
What the hell? I have no idea how friendships work, of course I'm something of a jackass. If you want to base a friendship with me on some infantile depravity, it quickly becomes unmaintainable. Conversely, If I check the box by your name on my "known entities" list in my head to denote you as my friend, I'd die for you. This is somewhat taxing as well, because feeling like you have to prove to someone that you'd die for them is only something you can do once or twice before you actually succeed in dying for them. People have told me that they have no expectations of me, but then get all upset if I disagree with them on some topic. Or I make a joke to deliberately offend them, and rather just letting it "roll off" they stay mad forever about it. I dunno. What does an average, functional friendship look like? What are it's qualities, and what level interactions are expected by the parties involved?

S.A.M.
11-01-08, 09:10 PM
Speaking from experience, I think it helps if both are dysfunctional.

Challenger78
11-01-08, 09:12 PM
What the hell? I have no idea how friendships work, of course I'm something of a jackass. If you want to base a friendship with me on some infantile depravity, it quickly becomes unmaintainable. Conversely, If I check the box by your name on my "known entities" list in my head to denote you as my friend, I'd die for you. This is somewhat taxing as well, because feeling like you have to prove to someone that you'd die for them is only something you can do once or twice before you actually succeed in dying for them. People have told me that they have no expectations of me, but then get all upset if I disagree with them on some topic. Or I make a joke to deliberately offend them, and rather just letting it "roll off" they stay mad forever about it. I dunno. What does an average, functional friendship look like? What are it's qualities, and what level interactions are expected by the parties involved?

I guess, You have to know your limits. I used to take everything seriously with my friends, whom I knew were joking, which often made me reluctant to joke. So know which topics are off limits and which aren't.

Mr. Hamtastic
11-01-08, 09:20 PM
Does anyone have talks about those sorts of things with their friends? "So, what can I do to really piss you off? Like so bad you want to beat up my wife?" How do you then, with such knowledge, refrain from committing the act?

Challenger78
11-01-08, 09:25 PM
Does anyone have talks about those sorts of things with their friends? "So, what can I do to really piss you off? Like so bad you want to beat up my wife?" How do you then, with such knowledge, refrain from committing the act?

Well. If you want to piss them off, then thats not really being friendly right ?

Mr. Hamtastic
11-01-08, 09:32 PM
I don't want to piss them off, I want them to guffaw in shock. If I just wanted to piss them off I'd punch them in the eye or something. Maybe kick out their taillights. Something like that.

cosmictraveler
11-01-08, 11:09 PM
Never expect anything from anybody and you'll never be disappointed!

Betrayer0fHope
11-01-08, 11:39 PM
I think it's nice when no matter what a person does, neither person could ever be angry at the other one. Gotta love high school eh? :)

swarm
11-02-08, 06:54 AM
Well sharing interests, being there for each other, being nice to each other.