Self confidence, or the belief in one's own personal worth, is one of the most desirable traits a person can have. You can almost blunder your way through any difficulty unscathed as long as you keep believing in yourself and others sense this. But...how do YOU tell the difference between confidence and arrogance?
Confidence is being aware of your capabilities(and limitations too), while at the same time being humble about them. Arrogance is thinking/knowing you are better than everyone else, with a tendency to have a condescending attitude towards others. There is a narrow line between them, however.
Arrogance is put on display because someone lacks valid self-confidence. My father used to tell me that the loudest guy in the bar has to be the loudest, it's the quiet ones you have to watch out for.
Deja vu What I took away from that thread, is self-confidence is how you view yourself and arrogance is how you view others.
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Interesting...but I dont believe social confidence is based on attainment of skills or experience. It is forged in the crucible of youth...one's relationship with their parents. The mother is primary...the father is secondary.
Arrogant people don't necessarily lack self confidence, they are just cocky and stuck up. I don't think it's necessarily hiding any insecurities. I'm an arrogant bitch, I know it, but only things I'm very confident in, but even if I know I'm good at something, but I'm afraid I won't reach my own expectations, while doing something I never boast about it.
Regardless of how confident you may be in your abilities, arrogance always signifies insecurity. Self confidence is, "I am good." Arrogance is, "I am better than you."
But also - what may appear like self-confidence could be something completely different. Is a samurai self-confident? In my estimation, for example, people from the ancient tribes who still live in their ancient ways nowadays, appear self-confident. But they probably don't even have the words "self-esteem" or "self-confidence". "Believing in yourself" - what does that mean anyway? I am not yet convinced that the difference really matters. When I set myself a goal and seek to attain it, I view people mostly in regard to the criterion of how helpful they can be to me for attaining that goal. Whether they are "confident" or "arrogant" doesn't even enter the picture.
What's that got to do with insecurity? Isn't that just ultimately secure to believe you're better than everyone else? Who else do you have to worry about?
I ask because it's hitting a bit of a nerve with me, I'm confident that I'm at least better than most people, but certainly not confident I'm good in accordance with some objective universal standard of greatness. Humans might just be shit, I suspect they are, I'm in the upper eschalon with no real effort and I'm not very impressive. I don't know if it's confidence or arrogance, it's more an observation. I might just have high standards, I think I'm pretty mediocre, better than most people, but I don't consider that something to be especially proud of. I'm very humble about the fact I'm one of the best humans ever, I don't consider it a big deal and acknowledge that I am still pretty shit.
